Friday, September 20, 2013

Well.. it had been a while

So we had been maidless for around 2 weeks now. At first it was ok, then it got a bit tiring.. however I have not regretted in my decision to send her back!

Why did I send her back.. well come.. let me story mory lahh,

She did not listen to instructions at all. I asked her not to do stuffs, and she wont do it for a while then she continues doing it if she knew she wont get caught. She also alwayss talk back, on how she does thing is right. Which pissed me off. I know , I know she can explain but honestly, she always tried to cut me off in when I am explaining why she is doing thing's wrong. And if she got caught on why she is doing this thing wrong, she will said "kepala die pusing.." That is just the tip of the iceberg.

She rarely bath so she really smells. She is lazy, she don't help me out preferring to stay in her bedroom 22 hours out of 24 hours. Yes, in the weekend, she is out of the room at 7 am and will go back in at 9 am. And don't come out... unless going to the bathroom or cook for herself. She don't ask questions, even after many many many times I had asked her to ask me things first before doing or handling things she never handled before. Which is why I don't let her vacuum or near the washing machine, because she broke my rice cooker and kettle. It may actually be near to the point of breaking, but she never said anythinggg if things are broken. I just find it out of my own. For a while, she had a friend, and every weekend, she will be at her friend house from morning till maghrib. I am of the opinion that maid should have a day off in a week, but saturday and sunday? Ok. That is fine too if other days she did her job. 

The sink look disastrous. The table and counters are never wiped. She only sweeps and mopped the floor twice a week, and only at the living room and kitchen and not anywhere else., and not under the sofa or chair or tepi2 dinding. No.. I did that.. . If she do the dishes I had to do it all over again because it is still oily. And those are her dishes.. I meant things she cooked. She don't even have to wash my stuffs. 

Well.. those are amongst it. She did have her good quality, with constant supervision and direction she can be fast and useful. However I can't do that. I can't be beside her overseeing all the time. She also loves little Ajis, so many times I just let it be and malas nak bertekak dah, because thinking she did take of Ajis and seems to love him. However because during those trial months I am unsatisfied with her work ( the never listening to what I am saying part) , I sent her to jaga my son at my sister house. So my sister maid can also oversees. 

But the thing that broke the camel back so to speak.. betul ke, is the lying. If I caught her doing something that is not, she always denied vehemently when I know exactly she had been doing it. I can't think of an example right now, but it had been done constantly. She always lie, but never to the point of stealing I think. Which proves me wrong.

When we brought her to Bintulu, she got caught stealing some of my ipar stuffs. Before this people kept on asking why we are sending her back.. she is rajin... *ptuihh*. Yes. Kat rumah orang bukan main rajin lagi, if she is at home, duduk la die dalam gua die ( I called it gua because she likes to be in the dark). Tapi I malas nak explain.. I just haa ye laa. Then she stole some stuffs. It is not expensive stuffs, but it still stealing. 

She got caught. We didn't confront her with the stealing, rather than asked her where did the things go, when the things was found in her bag. She said, no she didnt touch anything. Fine. We went to JB and she got caught again stealing. Some money and some food. I didnt mind if she wants the food, if she opened it in front of us or asked us ke. What makes me even more angry is she always 'up'kan diri die cakap ... " Saya ni baik orangnye. Hati saya suci.. bersih..." . And this happened. Which  just proves words meant nothing. 

So yes.. before the stealing was unravelled I was long unsatisfied with her. I think she knew it too and it only makes her angrier with me and in turn me angrier with her. So before things get out of hand, I asked husband to just send her early and we put little Ajis in a daycare. Then the stealing happened. I am not sure if she did stole some stuffs from me, because when I noticed things are missing, I will asked her repeatedly and told her, "jangan cakap saya lupa.. I know exactly where the stuffs are" .. then she will produce that stuffs. 

I don't think so I want a maid anymore. It is bothersome and if in a stroke of good luck you get a good one, well it is good, but most of the time we were left with the subpar one. For mine, she can be OK if there is someone always overseeing her. Someone older. Because she thinks I am young, she ignored what I said, I noticed if it were my mom or husband she will listen more. Senang kata memang payah la. Tengok la, if anak kedua or ketiga I changed my mind. There is plenty of moms out there who can cope without a maid . For now I am struggling, but to be honest I think the house even if it is more kecah, is a little bit more cleaner.  I always more for sweeping and mopping that decluttering. Heh. 

So itulah my experience with a maid. I am not saying the whole lot of them is bad. I had been living with maids for years, my mom , my sisters semua ade. But I happened got the person who is unsuitable for me. My ex maid so to say, should be at a house where there is a lot of people and someone who is always at home to keep an eye on things. I am on the other hand, who is alone with baby cannot do that. Ah well la kan. 

3 comments:

Lisalisut said...

Arghh i yg bc pn rs geram. Nsb bkn i yg hadap, kalau x mmg mkn penampar. Eh. Nt i jd majikan yg abuse maid pulak gagaga. Hntr je balik! Grrr

dils said...

@lisa - itu la I hantar die balik. Takut lagi lama kena baling barang kat muka.

dils said...

@Chicsinred I macam amazed macam mana all those surirumah manage to keep their rumah clean and clutter free at all times. Even more with kids!


Yeah. I macam dah more inclined to go for Philippines maid je ... but tunggu la dulu. I like having the house to myself jugak.

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